One of my resolutions that has achieved additional force each year is to try to be more honest: not just with others, but with myself. Now, some of you may think I have too sharp a tongue to begin with! But one of the features of the decade of the fifties (age, not birth year, although right now, they correspond) is that you discover that there really are things that you will not have time to get back to. Not that there is no future, either! But one learns that one really should prioritize and not waste the time remaining on useless endeavors. Strangely, this makes time seem to speed up.
At any rate, my subject for today is that I want to skewer one of the most insidious phrases in astrology:
"It works for me."
We've all used it - and it's time to stop.
Here's why: what does it actually mean?
- Does it mean that you don't know why it works, and haven't bothered to investigate?
- Does it mean that you've never examined the history of the technique you're being asked about, so you don't know its original basis, logic or context?
- Does it mean that you know it doesn't work for other people?
- Does it mean you are just thinking off the top of your head, and you don't know what else to say?
- Are you such an important authority that what you say is sufficient answer?
- Are you simply trying to get your audience to move on?
But if you join me with a New Year's Resolution to get this out of your cliches, then what do you do to substitute for it, or help to train you to choose other phrases? Here are some suggestions:
- I have found...
- I have not yet had an opportunity to study the history of this technique fully, so I can only give you my preliminary results....
- When I attempted to apply the methods of ___, I found I could only get results by doing this....
In my job as Academic Dean at Kepler College, I often have interviewed people who wanted to challenge some of the astrology courses that we teach. Oftentimes, my first question is to ask people to name five astrology authors they have read and enjoyed. Then I ask them to distinguish between the work of those authors. More frequently than not, they cannot - or they think that by saying that So-and-So is transpersonal and Thus-and-Such is Jungian, they have answered my question.
If you do not study your sources well enough to tease out what they are actually doing that is different from other sources, then how can you actually distinguish what is unique in your own work? And how can you hope to enlarge your horizons?